DayBreaks for 7/10/18: The Longing for Belonging
From the DayBreaks Archive, July 2008:
We all want desperately to belong to something. It may be a bridge club, a sports team, a lover, a profession – we all want to have a place of belonging, where we are valued for who and what we are, where we find kindred hearts that beat with common interests and shared passions.
Think about the things you’ve longed to be a part of in your life. If you go back as far as you can in memory’s hallway, you may find that you wanted first of all to belong to some club or team. You wanted to be one of the kids that was liked and invited to the coolest parties or to go out on a date with someone you dared only worship from afar. Later, you wanted to be admitted to a certain college or university, then to a company or business or organization where your interests could be matched with a need and where you belonged and could contribute. We all want to be good for something – and wanted because of it.
Alas, I was never allowed to be a cheerleader or pom-pom girl. I didn’t have the right qualifications (but then I never wanted to be one either!!!!!!) Nor was I ever admitted to medical school or the astronaut program. I wish I had been, for both hold great fascination for me – even to this day. All of my wishing that I’d belonged in those careers or callings cannot and will not make it so.
Perhaps the most difficult, and possibly foolish thing, that we might try to do is to create the meaning of our own life instead of simply discovering it. Here’s what I mean: in his book, Epic, John Eldredge observed: “Something preceded us. Something good. We’d much rather be included in something great than to have to create the meaning of our lives. To know that life, ultimately, doesn’t rest on our shoulders, but invites us up into it.”
How terrifying would it be to have to create the meaning of your own life? What if you got it WRONG? What if you couldn’t construct a satisfactory meaning to your own life?
Thank God we don’t have to, nor can we, create the meaning for our own lives. Simply put, God has created the sphere of meaning and purpose – all we have to do is to discover it. And God has even made that easy, ultimately – His rule and kingdom is the meaning of our lives. That means more than just saying, “Hosanna! Blessed is He that comes in the name of the Lord!” or “Praise God, Your kingdom come, Your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven!” Both of those are biblical things to say – and both are true. But for the kingdom of God to come in my heart is the purpose for which I was created and for which you were fashioned. We cannot and will not be what we can and are meant to be, if we resist that kingdom and block it from our hearts. If we resist the kingdom, we resist the King as well. And we don’t even want to go there! It is to God that I belong – and wonder of wonders, He belongs to me! I have a place of belonging that nothing in this world can ever take away – no downturn in the economy, no loss of licensure, no failure on my part to rightly discern the mysteries that surround me, no President or law – nothing. My belonging has nothing to do with those things – but only with His acceptance of me through Christ Jesus.
PRAYER: Eternal Father, thank You for giving us meaning by giving us Your love and personal attention. Thank You for giving us a place where we belong that we can always call home! In Jesus’ name, Amen.
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